What I Wish You Could Understand About Infertility
- That I really would like to have been married for a year or a little longer before trying to have a family, but I got married "late" in life (not really, but by southern standards, 31 is late!) and we want to be young enough to enjoy our kids.
- Sometimes medical issues prevent us from being able to follow our "timelines." With my medical history, we weren't really given the option to wait.
- telling me to stop stressing about it will not help me get pregnant any easier.
- I've always wanted to be a wife and a mom and the fact that it's going to be a little more difficult for this to happen is harder than words can ever fully explain
- I love being married and love life with my hubby and just the two of us, but I can't wait to see him as a dad. I'm kind of excited to think about life with three.
- I know a baby changes everything but just because you became a parent much sooner than you and your spouse had planned and it's been a hard adjustment for you,it doesn't mean my marriage will be miserable.
- I do not need to nor do I want to hear about how you knew a few couples who struggled to get pregnant, did all the infertility stuff and then when they just "let it go", they got pregnant. (even if I know one of these couples and know their story.) This is my probably one of my biggest infertility pet peeves.
- This has been one of the biggest tests of my faith and it's definitley "holy sandpaper."
- There are times when on the outside I look like things are fine, but on the inside, they're not.
- But above all, I want you to understand that I believe that God is bigger than infertility. He can heal me and let me have a child biologically and I'll praise Him..but if He chooses to use adoption as the way for us to be parents, I'll praise Him for that too. Above all else, I'm praising Him regardless for He is a good God.
Ashley,
ReplyDeleteI wish I would have found your blog a year ago!! This is too perfect!! After being married 7 years, we thought it would be so easy to get pregnant. Yet we struggled for over 2 years with trying to get pregnant. We constantly had people ask when we were going to start having kids. No problems were ever found, which was even more frustrating at the time. We began saving for adoption (which we still are highly optimistic about in the future!) But then, we went to an amazing fertility clinic and an IUI (with Clomid) worked to give us our wonderful son, Christian. Now, we are playing the waiting game again as we've been trying again ever since he was born and my doc gave the ok, lol. We're hoping to get pregnant with no help this time, but here I am feeling the same desperation with every period that starts. I am almost 30, so I can somewhat understand the urgency you are/were feeling, though I realize our circumstances are totally different. Anyway, all that to say, that I am with you 100% on those points you made in this blog. If only people would realize those things! It is very difficult to struggle with infertility and sometimes you just want to be able to talk and them listen and not say anything "encouraging." Just listen :) So just know that I am praying for y'all and know you will be great parents! (I'm sure your hubby is wonderful if you chose him!) Can't wait to hear what God has planned for y'all in the future! And can't wait to see who this precious child is that He is currently or will be knitting together for your family! Keep the blogs coming!! :)
Heather